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Post by mlm on Mar 8, 2017 21:50:15 GMT
I also was inspired by your poem!! I posted this. It came to mind at the end of your poem!!! It was SUCH a joy you brought up Dr. Seuss. He and Rudolph saved me in my childhood...and prepared me for what was to come. ) On Dasher, On Dancer On Whirling and Spin! On Upward and Upward And Upward to WIN! As if WIN is a place, not an event!!
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Post by mlm on Mar 8, 2017 22:00:43 GMT
I also was inspired by your poem!! I posted this. It came to mind at the end of your poem!!! It was SUCH a joy you brought up Dr. Seuss. He and Rudolph saved me in my childhood...and prepared me for what was to come. ) On Dasher, On Dancer On Whirling and Spin! On Upward and Upward And Upward to WIN! As if WIN is a place, not an event!!
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Post by katye on Mar 8, 2017 23:43:25 GMT
Thanks, Ana. I can relate to much of your story. I've been hibernating for several years and really don't enjoy being "out there" with the drama kings and queens. I'm much better at dealing with it, though, more tolerant and less judgmental. I think anyone living on this planet comes from a dysfunctional family and learning how to deal with it is my function right now.
The last 5-6 years have been phenomenal, miracles are happening all the time and I'm learning that they have always been there but that I just wasn't recognizing them or so busy judging them I missed them.
Over 10 years ago my family was dealing with an errant sibling that was making our lives miserable, mostly me because she lives in my city. That has resolved itself but now her daughter is following in her footsteps and driving my 83 year old Dad absolutely nuts. I'm helping to resolve the same problems with my niece we all experienced with my sister and find I am so much calmer and more compassionate that I was 10 years ago and the "problem" is dissipating quietly. I've heard that problems recur until we've dealt with them and I think I'm doing way better the second time around, which is very encouraging.
It sounds like you are doing very well and I'm inspired by that. Thanks for sharing your story
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Post by mlm on Mar 9, 2017 17:34:45 GMT
You are welcome! Thanks for caring:) And for sharing back. I'm sorry about your family. Family is hard. Drama is tough. How brave of you to face it again and face it better. I've wanted OUT of certain things, due to their difficulty. But I now see my "contract" with my parent and I'm to stay too and do it differently. I completely get you on that and it is so nice to hear another person struggled with that, too. And I'm sorry for your suffering! I discovered this past summer that greater knowledge empowers. It changed tactics, escalated my self-care and increased boundaries. Being "shown", psychological information, stories from people who LIVED the same exact thing, seeing the lies, seeing the sickness, seeing, period. Knowledge is much power. Whatever the disorder, and when drama doesn't end and repeats, there usually is one, reading everything is a little painful and massively relieving and liberating!! People instruct you through their experience. A cool thing happened for me, the STRESS tipped. It no longer flowed to me. It flowed elsewhere. Without stress, the world looks a lot better. Easy. You're right, It is so much better without judgment. The less, the better. But, boy, I was definitely NOT ALLOWED to vacate this situation or that type of person until I changed! They just kept coming! Over and over! Lol! It sucked! Thank goodness I stopped resisting and learned! Peace to you, Katye!! Have a great day!
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Post by katye on Mar 9, 2017 22:53:22 GMT
Sounds like the lesson learned, Ana, is that we can't change anyone else but yourself. I learned that with my sister and now my niece. 15 years ago I was trying to change her; now I know if this situation with my niece is going to change and the outcome be different I only need change me. I guess I'm a slow learner but, as they say, better late than never.
I have also come to the conclusion that our family members make great teachers(they don't know this, of course) and they're in our lives for a reason. In my case, I've learned patience, compassion, tolerance and acceptance. Life is so much easier living this way instead of playing judge and jury
Even with all this non-sense going on in my life every day has become a great day!
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